Monthly Archives: October 2009

To Call or Not To Call?

By vanessa | Published: October 31, 2009

When I was younger and had only just started dating boys the time spent waiting for a phone call or text message was almost unbearable. In fact I can remember vividly, aged 14, before teenagers had mobiles (!) spending a weekend sitting by the my house phone. When he finally called and my mum handed [...]

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The Heart Has Its Reasons – Episode 1

By vanessa | Published: October 28, 2009

In this video my lovely lovely best friend Alexander Fury and I consider the question “Why Am I Single?” That refers to me, sadly, as he has an equally lovely boyfriend. Bastard. FYI, the choice of such a flowery name for this show will become clear within seconds. Enjoy! The Heart Has Its Reasons – [...]

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Honesty And Sobriety: Not Always The Best Policies.

By vanessa | Published: October 26, 2009

Recently I gave up drinking. At first I stopped drinking at all, just to see if I could. It wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be, so since then I have been allowing myself a maximum of one slightly drunk night a month, no more than 3 drinks at other times, and both [...]

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Hey Gurl!

By vanessa | Published: October 25, 2009

Online dating intrigues me. Everything else in my life from where I go out, to what shoes I buy, seems to be tied to the internet so it just seems natural that I should go about finding someone to go out with in the same way. Plucking up the courage to contact a random pretty [...]

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What’s Your Favourite Number?

By vanessa | Published: October 23, 2009

Back in the day, which was a Wednesday if you check, men assumed their wives were virginal, and women that their husbands were super studs, so I hear. Blissful sexist ignorance it may have been, but everything changes with time. These days everyone wants to know what came before them (literally and figuratively) and so [...]

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Did We Sleep Together?

By vanessa | Published: October 19, 2009

It was a party in Peckham, I think I was wearing a ruff, and I know was drunk. On the other side of the dance floor was an attractive young man. He smiled at me, and I ambled over. We chatted about whatever it is two people witter about at 5am in a freezing cold [...]

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How To Make Anyone Think You’re A Babbling Sycophant.

By vanessa | Published: October 14, 2009

This month I read How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You by Leil Lowndes. Lowndes’ concept is basically that everyone is an insecure puppy craving attention from someone who appears to like most of the same stuff as them, and therefore by faking these interests while laying on compliments thick and heavy you [...]

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My Worst Date Ever Ever EVER

By vanessa | Published: October 12, 2009

A few years ago I was living at my parent’s house in Massachusetts and feeling a tad lonely.  So, like the productive, go-getting gal I am I joined OkCupid (for the first time). Within minutes of finishing my profile I was shopping for boys with gay abandon, and found a pretty hipster who liked all [...]

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Where Do I Go?

By vanessa | Published: October 8, 2009

I guess it’s always good to start with the classics when going through date locations, after all they’re probably classics for a reason! So let’s start with the timeless dinner date. Personally I love dinner dates: if you pick the right spot they’re warm, cosy, last just the right amount of time, and if you’re [...]

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STI Of The Month – Syphilis!

By vanessa | Published: October 3, 2009

Ah syphilis! Catch this and you’ll be in the company of Baudelaire, Wilde, Hitler, Nietzsche, and my number one historical hunk Beau Brummell. Easily treated, but difficult to spot, syphilis is often mistaken for dozens of other ailments, and incorrectly treated due to its relative current obscurity. It starts with one, or more, small painless [...]

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